Bobby struggled with addiction for thirteen years starting in college. He had periods of sobriety during that time which always gave me hope for his recovery. I knew little about addiction then and there were few resources available to help him and our family. He said two things to me during that time that have never left me to this day. It has opened my eyes to the struggle a person has in ﬁghting addiction. Bobby said he didn’t think he would live to be very old, and that the thought of drugs sometimes invaded his dreams. I think at the time he was trying to tell me how much of a struggle it was for him and his worry that he might not always have the strength to ﬁght it. Sadly those words became a reality and those feelings of worry and fear are now replaced with grief.
In the weeks that followed Bobby’s passing I thought a lot about his life, our family and what I wished I had to help us during those years he struggled. I really wanted someone to talk to who knew what I was going through and I wished that there was an easier way to ﬁnd help. It was very isolating dealing with a problem that carried so much stigma, and the hours spent on the computer looking for reputable treatment programs was exhausting.
In February 2016 I formed the Come As You Are Coalition under the Rappahannock Rapidan Community Services Board and in December 2017 we became a nonproﬁt organization. Come As You Are, Inc. is a safe and nonjudgemental community to connect you to support and available treatment resources.